As cool as I try to be sometimes, especially when it comes to my musical taste, I have to admit, I really tend to be behind the curve.
This is best demonstrated by the fact that I just now got into Mumford & Sons. Not that I hadn’t heard them before – in fact my kettlebell trainer used to play them during our sessions sometimes.
It’s only this past month or so that I’ve come around and decided to give their first album, “Sigh No More” a listen.

I suppose it’s a timing thing, and it all has to do withe general level of melancholy.

So here’s a public admission – I am currently seeing a counselor, pursuing EMDR therapy. The past couple years have been exceptionally rough, between career upheaval / failure / beginning fatherhood, I’ve had to admit I’m currently a mess. Beyond that, I have to admit most of my adult life has felt this way. I’m always feeling like I fall short, mainly of my own expectations. Over the years, I’ve developed some unhealthy patterns in dealing with hard things, and that’s built up to the point I can’t handle it anymore, hence the therapy.

So here’s where the title comes in – it turns out that admitting how sad you are and how messed up you really are is really very therapeutic. It also turns out that some good, bittersweet music, like the whole “Sigh No More” album, can help you get in touch with that – at least that’s how it works for me. It turns out the type of sadness that can break your heart usually holds the hand of the deep joy that does the same thing.

So here’s a short list of things I’ve learned so far while getting in touch with my own sadness

  • Life is full of emotional trauma of one sort or another – no one escapes this
  • Struggling with finding my place in life, especially when I was just entering adulthood, is not a sign of failure, it’s actually quite normal
  • I’m not doomed to always being sad and overwhelmed

So my hearty recommendation is to pick up something like “Sigh No More” or the soundtrack to “Once” and go ahead and have a good cry.

I’ll be adding more about my experience with EMDR as appropriate, and as I process through it. So far, I can say it’s worth the time and money.

Time to Start